Thanks for letting go

“Excessive caution destroys the soul and the heart, because living is an act of courage, and an act of courage is always an act of love” - Manuscript found in Accra

An unhealthy Relationship

Letting go of an unhealthy relationship is an act of courage and an act of love. It is love of life, and faith in Allah (Most gracious most merciful).

Not all of us have the courage to let go of an unhealthy relationship. We like to believe in our ability to fix things and make things work perfectly. We are afraid to admit to ourselves that despite everything we did it still isn’t getting any better. We bear the unbearable in hope that we can make it work. We like to believe that everything will be alright, that we made the right choices.

The Explosion

We push ourselves and bear beyond our limits. We believe in our ability to heal this relationship and make it healthy. We make sacrifices, and then we suddenly explode destroying our relationship.

Then we wake up to realize that this relationship wasn’t meant to be. We just didn’t have enough courage to admit to ourselves. We were too much cautious and we destroyed our hearts and souls in this process.

Trust is better

“Trust is better than love. You may not trust who you love, but you’ll always love who you trust” Ahmed Shukairy

Mutual trust is the most important base in a solid relationship. If there is no mutual trust to build on a relationship it will easily fail. Love is not enough.

Trust means that I believe in you. I believe that you are telling me the truth, that you are 100% honest with me. It also, means that there are no walls between us. It means that you understand why I am acting this way and know the intentions behind them. Intentions are clear, communicated clearly, without fear or hidden agendas.

 Fear is a Hidden Agenda

Fear is a force that attracts sad and bad events. What you fear something and think about it, it will eventually be your reality. We need to break our fear patterns and live with hope rather than fear. We cannot build a relationship with excessive caution out of fear of breaking up!

Thanks

Sometimes, although we didn’t have enough courage to end an unhealthy relationship, Allah sends a guardian angel to set you free.

Thanks to Allah (Most gracious and most merciful), and to all my courageous guardian angels who light my life and set me free.

The End

Every end is a new begging. I wish you all great beginnings, and happy endings. Most importantly, I wish you all peace and love.